Blessing others to protect your peace

Over the years, I’ve noticed a pattern. Sometimes people treat you poorly, and there’s no clear reason why. You didn’t say or do anything wrong, and yet, something in their tone, words, or behavior hits you wrong. It’s easy to take it personally. It’s even easier to let it rattle your peace.

I’ve learned that I don’t want to carry that chaos inside me.

So I came up with a little mind hack, a simple practice that helps me interrupt that inner storm when it starts brewing. It’s not always easy, but it is simple.

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The Practice: Bless and Release

When someone’s energy or words feel off, when I sense disrespect, judgment, or coldness, I quietly say, either in my mind or under my breath:

“Bless them, Lord.”
or
“Blessings on you.”

And then I release them.
I let them go in my heart and in my thoughts.

Now, I won’t pretend this is always graceful. Sometimes I bless through gritted teeth. Sometimes the blessing feels more like throwing a flaming lawn dart blessing (just being honest). But I do it anyway, because I’ve learned this truth:

You can’t hold anger and offer genuine blessings at the same time.

The moment I shift to blessing, the power of that irritation fades. The tension softens. My peace returns.

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Why This Works

Our minds love to dissect and react:

• “Why did they act like that?”

• “What did I do wrong?”

• “How do I explain myself?”

• “Should I say something back?”

But chasing those thoughts rarely leads to resolution. It just keeps the emotional storm spinning.

By blessing and releasing, I interrupt that loop.
I return to calm.
I protect my peace.
I remain in alignment with who I want to be.

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It’s Not About Them

When someone is rude, distant, or overly reactive, there’s usually more going on than we can see. Maybe they’re having a hard day. Maybe they’re carrying something heavy. Maybe they don’t even realize how they’re coming across.

And honestly? We’ve all been that person.
We’ve all snapped or shut down when we were overwhelmed or hurting.

So blessing someone in that moment isn’t about condoning bad behavior.
It’s about choosing not to absorb it.

Blessing others when they’re not at their best isn’t about fixing them, it's about freeing yourself.

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And Surprise: It’s Biblical!

Today I had a lightbulb moment while listening to a YouTube video about prayer, it's amazing where church can happen if you are listening. I realized this little mind trick I’ve been using is exactly what Scripture teaches.

Here are the verses that confirm it:

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1 Peter 3:9

“Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.”

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Romans 12:17–21

“Do not repay anyone evil for evil... Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.”

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Matthew 5:44

“But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.”

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Proverbs 25:21–22

“If your enemy is hungry, give him food to eat; if he is thirsty, give him water to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head, and the Lord will reward you.”

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Wrapping up

Choosing peace over reaction is a spiritual practice.
Blessing instead of stewing is a way to stay grounded in Christ.
Releasing instead of clinging to offense is how we stay free.

So the next time someone throws shade, acts cold, or says something sharp, try it. Whisper the blessing. Release the weight. Protect your peace.

You’re not blessing them for their sake.
You’re doing it for your own soul.

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